So I have this thought that has been percolating for awhile now, and I thought I’d share it with you today. It has to do with stuff. And what we do with our stuff when we are done with it. And what we expect to get out of the stuff we used and are now done with.
You still with me?
It’s been a reoccurring experience over the past few years where I will be talking about something that I have that I no longer want (or someone else is talking about something they have that they no longer want), and someone always brings up the question of selling said item. This has happened with a variety of unwanted items: baby clothes, kid’s toys, furniture, the black walnuts that our trees in our backyard drop each fall, etc. And it drives, me crazy.
First of all, if you have something that you’ve used and has served it’s purpose but is now no longer wanted/needed, why on earth would we try to get money out of it? We’ve gotten everything out of the item that we need: function, enjoyment, etc . The item is now used. Just give it away for goodness sake!
This topic really gets me going when it comes to baby clothes. I am not here to criticize anyone who has had a garage sale and put their baby clothes out for sale. Garage sales are great and I’m not saying you are a bad person for having sold someone your used baby clothes for 25 cents.
However, I will be eternally grateful for the few ladies who happily and willingly gifted me boxes upon boxes of gently used baby and toddler clothes when we were just starting our family. We were broke as a joke and these clothes were a huge blessing to us. Clothing can be expensive for kids, and it can be hard (and time consuming) to find quality used clothing at garage sales. The gifted clothing not only satisfied a huge need, but it saved me a lot of time and energy, in addition to money. Not to mention it just made me feel so loved!
I’m going to keep this post short today because I don’t want to seem like a crazy person on her soap box. Instead, let me simply encourage you to think twice before you list some of your smaller, well used items for sale (obviously I’m not against selling your house or car).
There are people out there who need it more than you. So just give it away. And no, it’s not our responsibility to gauge people’s worthiness of our stuff. I’m sure people had no idea how difficult our financial situation was when we brought Theo home from the hospital. They just gave us baby clothes because they wanted to pass them on. I encourage you to do the same. If you have something you no longer need, don’t sell it. Give it away!
Personal Note: We recently went through all of the boy’s toys and got rid of almost 50% of the items. I was asked (again and again) if we were selling them and I emphatically replied, “No!” Theo knows that we are giving away these toys to other people for them to enjoy. I want to start teaching him at an early age that life can’t be bought. Life is not a series of financial transactions. I don’t want to raise him thinking that he always has to have an angle, or that he always has to get something in return for giving. He already got his enjoyment out of this stuff, and now it’s time to let someone else have a share of the fun. For free.