Two weeks ago, I shared why I’m not a fan of the whole “Don’t just survive, THRIVE!” concept. The distance between surviving and thriving seems so…well…overwhelming sometimes. They are both such extremes! Honestly, I’m less worried about thriving and more concerned with savoring. Am I savoring my life? Am I thoughtfully and intentionally enjoying the good things of life? This thought seemed to resonate with a lot of you, too.
Today, I have a follow up thought to the savoring philosophy. I believe that before we can learn to savor our life, we must first master the fine art, of lingering.
Let me explain.
It’s easy to get caught up in the “power through” mentality. It’s easy to let our responsibilities or our drive to accomplish to push us on, on, on. It’s easy to get bogged down in the, “there is always more to do,” frame of mind. It’s easy to put a to-do list above a relationship. Whether you are a housewife, a CEO, or just a human being, we are always geared up to move on to what is next.
What if we chose, instead, to linger?
What if we chose to pause after checking off the “sweep house” item on our to-do list, to look around, and take in a job well done?
What if we chose to pause after that last drop of coffee is gone, to simply sit in the silence of an empty cup?
What if we sat in our car with the engine turned off and allowed the song to finish playing through it’s final notes?
What if we complete our project – the one that’s been consuming us for days, weeks, years – and allow the satisfaction to wash over us and settle into our bones and exhale a deep breath of release before instantly thinking about the next thing to accomplish?
What if we allowed the last words of conversation with a lover or friend to float away into the atmosphere, and embrace the comfortable silence that says, “I’m here, and that is enough”?
What if before rushing out of the kid’s rooms at night, ready to tackle the kitchen or our latest book, we turned for one last look?
What if we traded the easy and obvious satisfaction of a clean countertop for the messier, more subtle satisfaction of getting down on the floor to play with our kids?
What if we allowed ourselves to lie in bed for a few extra minutes, holding tight to our loved one, knowing that nothing really matters as much as the person resting beside you?
What if we measured the success of our days, not by how much we accomplish, but by how much we savor?
What if we set aside our projects and our duties and our to-do lists for just a bit longer to stay in the moments that add more meaning to our life than any accomplishment could ever hope to add…and let it linger.