Several weeks ago, I shared on instagram that I found a DIY bedwetting relief cream that used essential oils to help kids stay dry at night. I was blown away by how many of you contacted me since then asking if the cream worked and wanting the recipe. If nothing else, I’m just glad to hear we aren’t the only family to have a kiddo who is fully potty trained by day (and has been for years), but still suffers from weekly night time bedwetting. In today’s post, I’ll be sharing the recipe I used, the results, AND, I’m partnering with Plant Therapy to bring you a 10% discount off of any oils you order from them now through May 19, so you’ll want to scroll to the end of the post to find out those details and get your oils for this recipe!
Ok, so first a little background.
Our oldest was fully potty trained at age three, including staying dry for naps. Night time, however, has been a totally different ball game. On average, he will SOAK through a pull-up, all his bed sheets/blankets, and any surrounding stuffed animals 3-4 nights a week. He will literally be wet up to his shoulders some nights.
This isn’t an issue with drinking too much before going to bed. This isn’t an issue with actual potty “training.” And he doesn’t haven any developmental delays or handicaps that would cause an issue with night time dryness.
From my research, I’ve learned that most doctors won’t treat night time bed wetting as a medical problem until the age of 9 or 10. The prospect of completely stripping his bed and washing evvvverything 3-4 nights every week for three to four more years just makes me want to cry buckets of tears. I also read that night time dryness is fully developmental. So the doctors and “experts” who tell you to just make your kids change their own sheets so that they can “get it” are essentially just telling you to shame the kids about something they have almost no ability to control. In order for kids to stay dry at night, their bodies need to produce a hormone that tells their brains to tell their kidneys to not produce so much urine. That’s why it really don’t matter how much they are drinking before bed, if that hormone hasn’t kicked in, their bodies will keep pumping out the pee whether they drank one teaspoon of water before bed or one liter.
My oldest is also an incredibly hard sleeper. So the nights where he wets through everything, including all his sheets, blankets, and is wet up to his shoulders? It doesn’t even wake him up. He won’t realize he is wet until he wakes up, like clockwork, at 8 am the next morning. And then he feels embarrassed and frustrated and he usually gets right to work pulling the sheets off his bed – not because I make him – but because I know he feels bad, and that just breaks my heart.
What causes bed-wetting?
Bed-wetting isn’t caused by drinking too much liquid before bedtime. It’s not a psychological problem. It’s not because the child is too lazy to get out of bed to go to the bathroom. And children do not wet the bed on purpose, out of spite or to irritate their parents.
Some of the causes of bed-wetting include the following:
- Genetic factors (it tends to run in families)
- Difficulties waking up from sleep
- Slower than normal development of the central nervous system—this reduces the child’s ability to stop the bladder from emptying at night
- Hormonal factors (not enough antidiuretic hormone—this hormone reduces the amount of urine made by the kidneys)
- Urinary tract infections(source)
Ok, so armed with this information that doctors won’t treat this as a medical issue until 9 or 10 and that this is largely and issue of waiting for that hormone to kick in while dealing with a very heavy sleeper (he gets it honestly from *cough cough* one of his parents… Me. He gets it from me.), I turned to dr. google and tried to find natural methods to help my poor boy start to stay dry at night.
That is when I found a post over at Six Dollar Family.
Like I said, the idea of spending several more years doing this much laundry each week and potentially dealing with a little boy who would only end up feeling worse about the situation than he already does, I decided to give the recipe a try. It was easy, called for great all natural ingredients, and I thought the worst it could do is end up being a great smelling moisturizer for my kid’s skin. The alternative, if it worked, was worth it.
So, I clicked on every single affiliate link in the blog post, added the ingredients to my shopping card, and anxiously awaited their delivery.
The essential oils were from Plant Therapy, a company that I had never heard of before, but have since then both heard excellent testimonials from friends who have used their products and have personally been very impressed with their product
The basic ingredients you will need are:
- .1/2 oz. beeswax
- 3 tbsp. coconut oil
- 4 tsp. jojoba oil
- 12 drops juniper berry essential oil
- 12 drops cypress essential oil
- 8 drops roman chamomile essential oil
- 8 drops lemongrass essential oil
- Container with lids
Be sure to check out the original recipe to read why these oils were specifically chosen to help your kiddo stay dry.
I’ve made quite a few homemade natural body products before, so I made the cream in a way that worked best for me. I simply melted the beeswax, then I took it off the heat and stirred in the coconut and jojoba oil (you can also use almond). I added the essential oils after I made sure it was completely melted and incorporated and then immediately poured the mixture into my container. I had an empty glass jar left over from my homemade baby cream that I had cleaned out and sterilized. I believe it is an 8 oz container and this recipe filled it almost to the top.
Now, for the part you are all waiting for. How did it work? Did it work? Drum roll please…
We been using this cream for several weeks now. I wanted to really give it a good test time before I reported back to you. Here is what I can tell you: the only nights that my son completely soaks through everything are the nights that we forget to use the cream.
So what does this mean?
Did he stay completely dry? Well, that is hard to say. My oldest wakes up and immediately changes from his pull up into underwear. So I can’t say for certain that he isn’t wetting his pull up at all. My guess is that he is still struggling with staying completely dry. What I CAN say, however, is that we haven’t had a morning where he wakes up and has soaked through everything on the nights that we use the cream. I went an entire week without changing the sheets, which seriously you guys, FELT SO AMAZING!
To me, this tells me that my son still has some developing to do and his body still needs to produce the hormone that reduces urine output. It also tells me that the oils we are using are helping with the excessive amounts of urine that he continues to produce.
To apply the cream I just rub it in a circular motion on the front and back of my kid’s kidney’s and liver. I basically guess. I don’t exactly get out an anatomy book. Anyways.
I’ll continue to use this cream nightly. We aren’t anywhere near ready to wear underwear to bed…wait, I’m just going to go ahead and rephrase that. He isn’t anywhere near ready to wear underwear to bed. “WE” have been dry at night for quite some time, thank you very much.
I know that accidents are very, very common in kids, so I’m not looking for perfection, I’m mostly just looking for progress. Baby steps in the direction of dryness. I want to do less laundry. I want him to wake up feeling good about himself – which he is, he is SO proud to announce each morning that his bed is dry! GOOD-NESS that makes me feel good and makes trying this cream worth it in and of itself!
This might be TMI, but I’m going to go for it for the sake of really rounding out this post. Our middle child is in the process of potty training, and just because he wants to do everything his big brother does, I’ve been rubbing a teensy bit on him, too. After he is done sitting on the potty each morning and I go to dump it, I notice that his urine is much darker and more concentrated than his big brother’s has ever looked. Am I saying the cream is magically helping him to potty train and stay dry at night, even though he just started this process? NO, definitely not. My point is this – clearly my big boy’s body is genuinely struggling with to produce the antidiuretic hormone—the hormone that reduces the amount of urine made by the kidneys. It’s obvious that his body just produces pee like CRAZY TOWN and then he pees the bed and then he doesn’t wake up because it takes an act of God to get the child to wake up before he wants to (again, he gets that honestly). So all that to say, I can tell that there is something going on here and it’s not his fault but it’s not exactly a medical “problem,” I’m just going to go ahead and call it a delay. A frustrating, stinky, very wet delay that makes a lot of work for momma and bless him, really bums my guy out.
So. If this sounds like your kiddo, make this cream. Buy the oils. Make the cream. Smear it all over you kid’s kidneys and liver each night. And be blessed by the soothing scent of chamomile and the magical drying powers of cypress and juniper berry oil.
And for now until May 19th, Plant Therapy is offering His Girl Friday 10% off your order of oils! Coupon Code: HisGirlFriday10
(Coupon cannot be combined with any other discount or offer. Coupon is not valid towards the purchase of gift certificates.)
I can’t say enough good things about my Plant Therapy oils. I ordered all my oils for this recipe from Plant Therapy and was SO impressed with their quality and great price that I went back and placed a second order of others that I had been wanting to try for myself.
Go forth and be dry, little ones.