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Our New Favorite Day (and Our New Favorite Park)

We’ve been working on something new in our family.

Or, to be more specific, we’ve been working on not working, in our family. Continue reading “Our New Favorite Day (and Our New Favorite Park)” →

September 27, 2018September 27, 2018

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We spent this past weekend enjoying a room with a view, drinking endless cups of coffee, eating delicious meal after delicious meal, and above all else - dreaming. Together. About everrrrything. + We had a lot of great conversations along the way, but the one that has stayed with me the most was when we were talking about how we’ve had to learn the hard way that it’s not our job to make our partner happy. + I’ve learned a lot about resentment lately. I’ve learned that resentment is born when we willingly give something to another person without factoring in the void that is left in it’s place. In an ideal world we can give and give without end. But we don’t live in the ideal - we live in the real. In reality, resentment often comes from something we willingly and lovingly gave, but failed to factor our own needs and renewal in the process. + It can be easy to attempt to give sacrificially but actually give stupidly. It is never just one person’s job in the relationship to give and the other person’s job to take. When we understand that we aren’t responsible to make our partner happy, we are BOTH freed to communicate honestly what we want and need and we are BOTH freed to respond to those wants and needs in a loving way that factors in continued growth and replenishment. + The hardest thing to acknowledge is that ultimately, it’s not my job to make my partner happy because long term, that’s not even possible. Strong relationships are built on two wholes coming together to create one whole. When we start from a place of understanding and stewarding our own wholeness, we are freed to bring our partner the best of us - free from any expectation that they will prop us up, fill us up, or make us complete (and vice versa!). + It might not be or job to make each other happy. But we sure as heck get to be happy - together. And that is a big, big difference. + #bettertogether #marriage #love #weekendgetaway #roadtrip #ohiogram
Montgomery turned one yesterday. 🎉We celebrated tonight, a day late, with a boxed cake mix that one brother baked while another brother decorated with (fresh) frosting and leftover Christmas sprinkles. 🍰After diving face first into his cake and getting a quick sink bath, Monty was whisked off to bed while his brothers and sister ran out to watch a hot air balloon land in the field behind our house.🌅And if you want to know the true difference between me as a first time mom and me as a fourth time mom it’s this - that I’ve seen first hand the beauty of letting go, leaning in, and making space for the magic to happen without any help from me or Pinterest. These kids. They are the secret sauce. They make every experience special. They find the things worth becoming memories. 💛 #memorizingmotherhood #babynumber4 #happybirthday
Last week, Mike and I walked into a mall to get something specific, which is notable because we hadn’t stepped foot in a mall in a very long time. It made me laugh because it brought back sooo many memories of when we were first married. We were young, in college, and broke. Sometimes we would go to the mall just to walk around, and on a rare occasion, we would purchase something and it would make us feel like we were millionaires. We had nothing to do but go to classes, work our evening gig at the campus coffee shop, and then hang out. We might have been broke and clueless, but that was also a really sweet and special time in our history. + A lot of change is afoot in our lives. Some exciting. Some incredibly sad. Some very, very uncertain. It’s true what they say - change really is the only constant. And yet...walking into that mall last week, I laughed at finding ourselves back in a department store together. Not much richer or wiser, but still very much in love. He is the base note to the music of my heart. My constant. The inhale to my exhale. Change surrounds us, but it always continues to carry us together. + I heard someone say that if you want good advice, don’t ask - watch. + I don’t have any good life or marriage advice. And I don’t know where all life is carrying us right now. But I do know that I hope our life and marriage continues to be the kind that, when you see it, you just know it’s true. Not right. Not perfect. Just...true. + #love #marriage #writersofinstagram

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