I Knew You Then, I Love You Now

 

I had this friend in high school. We were the best of friends. Some of my most vivid memories from this time in my life include her; our cross country practices; spending the night at her house almost every weekend in the summer; our late night runs around town; a shared love for stupid humor (how many times did we watch Saving Silverman and Orange County???; SO many concerts; SO many nights spent in a friend’s basement recording studio while she and our boyfriends laid down tracks (They were in a band. I guess that made me a groupie? hmmm); SO. MUCH. LAUGHTER. There are people who know your history, and then there are people who lived your history with you.

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A brother-sister breakfast/pancake eating contest (we were cool like that). (L-R) Mike and Angie, Me and Josh.

That was all almost twelve years ago.

We went our separate ways after high school. Attended different colleges. Married different guys than we were dating back then. Formed new lives.

But then, last Thursday… Continue reading “I Knew You Then, I Love You Now”

Five Things

1. Do you have plans this Valentines Day? A big date night? Maybe keeping things simple and staying in? We are doing a combination of the two; I have a special dinner planned for Mike and I to enjoy sans the kiddos, and then we are heading out for the evening to hear a musician friend of ours perform. This article has some great makeup tips to help you put your V-Day look over the top. I particularly like the first suggestion of going with major brows and pale pink shades everywhere else. Continue reading “Five Things”

My Beauty Uniform: Briana

I’m so excited to introduce you to my good friend Briana and her gorgeous face. She is my first guest-contributor for my new series, My Beauty Uniform. Briana is a momma of two little boys, makes and sells all kinds of amazing things (like my all time favorite “man soap”), and is one of the most  stunningly beautiful women I’ve ever seen. Enjoy! 

Describe your morning/evening skincare routine: 

I will start with my evening routine first because it’s the one I put more focus on. First I like to exfoliate with hot water and any natural essential oil scented soap I have available. I have large pores and to clean them out I need to scrub my face with something very abrasive; I use a luffa for this. I have had a lot of success with my homemade face mask consisting of Bentonite clay and vinegar, and I leave that on for about 15-20 minutes. Next I love to dap a little vitamin E oil just under and on top of my eyes. Before I discovered vitamin E oil, I used cocoa butter really just anything with the most emollient properties.

Morning routine – Splash of cold water! (more like a reality check). Continue reading “My Beauty Uniform: Briana”

My Beauty Uniform: Rebekah

I’m starting a new series called “My Beauty Uniform,” in which I’ll interview women (or men if I can find some guys willing to be interviewed!), about their skin care routines, how they choose their wardrobe, and about how they would describe their “look.” Today, I’ll share MY beauty uniform with you.

What is your morning/evening skincare routine?
I keep my skincare routine very simple. If my skin is dry, then I simply “wash” my face with a dampened Norwex body rag, and moisturize with Acure’s aromatherapeutic rose, moroccan argan oil. If my skin is oily, I’ll wash it in Origins Checks and Balances face wash, followed by Thayers Rose Petal witch hazel, and use the same oil as moisturizer (it’s for all skin types). I do this for both my morning and evening routine.

Continue reading “My Beauty Uniform: Rebekah”

Encouraging The Win

I read a great blog post recently by Mama Lion Strong about our culture’s obsession with perfect abs, skinny bodies and the unfortunate shaming that we as women succumb to, both through feeling shame towards our own bodies, and shaming other women for where they are at in their personal fitness journey.

In her post, Jen was responding to a woman’s photo of her incredible abs with a caption that read “I have a kid, a six pack, and no excuse.” Continue reading “Encouraging The Win”

Your Kids & Your Job Are Not Your Purpose (And Other Life Lessons Learned From Play Dough)

I read a lot. As I read, nothing makes me happier than when I read two separate thoughts from two separate works from two totally different people and something just clicks. It’s that moment when everything comes together and your mind just goes from casually interested to totally blown. I had one of those moments recently when I read the following two quotes:

“Homemaking is not something that stands in the way of our deeper fulfillment; it becomes the ground that feeds it.”
-Shannon Hayes, Radical Homemakers: Reclaiming Domesticity from a Consumer Culture

“Let me make a distinction between career and creativity. Creativity is connected to your passion, that light inside you that drives you. That joy that comes when you do something you love. That small voice that tells you, ‘I like this. Do this again. You are good at it. Keep going.’ That is the juicy stuff that lubricates our lives and helps us feel less alone in the world…Career is different. Career is the stringing together of opportunities and jobs. Mix in public opinion and past regrets. Add a dash of future panic and a whole lot of financial uncertainty. Career is something that fools you into thinking you are in control and then takes pleasure in reminding you that you aren’t. Career is the thing that will not fill you up and never make you truly whole. Depending on your career is like eating cake for breakfast and wondering why you start crying an hour later.
-Amy Poehler, Yes Please

I’ve come to the conclusion that most of us have a seriously dysfunctional view of purpose, careers and motherhood. We view these three very unique things as one. Then, when purpose starts pulling at motherhood and motherhood starts pulling at career and we try to find purpose in our career and try to make a career out of motherhood, wow, do things get messy. And complicated. And confusing. And dissatisfying. And we just end up eating cake for breakfast and crying an hour later.

Or to use a visual analogy, it’s like my son’s recent play dough/leggo man creation. He can say that he mashed some stuff together to make it “one,” but we all know it’s just two totally separate toys that are crammed together, totally incongruous and dysfunctional. Continue reading “Your Kids & Your Job Are Not Your Purpose (And Other Life Lessons Learned From Play Dough)”

Opening the Capsule

Last week, I shared with you my new big clothing adventure — creating a capsule wardrobe for fall 2014! This week I had so much fun experimenting with my “new” wardrobe, and I wanted to share a few updates with you.

  1. I was waaay too optimistic about our warm weather sticking around. It did not. Fall hit northeastern Ohio shortly after I posted Empty Hangers, Full Life. As a result, several of the choices I made for my capsule wardrobe were suddenly, completely weather-inappropriate. To rectify my mistake,  I allowed myself a few swaps, meaning I replaced my summer tops with fall sweaters. Here are the new items I included:

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Empty Hangers, Full Life

One of my first blog posts here on His Girl Friday was all about my attempt to look at my existing wardrobe with new eyes and to get more creative — instead of getting more clothes — when I was feeling like I had “nothing to wear.” The Sermon and the Tweet was a fun experiment, but truthfully, it didn’t take long for me to fall back into the same pattern of feeling out of date and frumpy with my current closet. Continue reading “Empty Hangers, Full Life”