My Essentials For Pregnancy #4

And just like that, I’m in my third trimester with less than 11 weeks to go until baby number four arrives. This pregnancy has flown by for me! I’m grateful in some ways, but in other ways I feel like this has been such a blur! I’ve felt great this pregnancy, with little to no pregnancy related sickness and no major complaints to speak of. I always have tailbone issues with all my pregnancies (not sciatica, my tailbone just starts to tilt out waaay too early), so that is a bummer, but other than that I’ve felt wonderful. Now that we are nearing the end I’m starting to experience some growing pains and feeling rather *ahem* large, but I guess that goes with the territory.

In addition to this pregnancy generally being a healthy and happy one, I’ve discovered some things that have really helped me enjoy the experience more and feel my best. I’m excited to share those essentials with you today! Continue reading “My Essentials For Pregnancy #4”

The Problem With Goals

I attended this two day yoga workshop this weekend and received some tough love/much needed real talk that led to a light bulb moment that I’m still mulling over. This is not a post about yoga. This is a post about the problem with goals, or rather, how we set our goals. It just so happens that yoga was the vehicle that drove this point home for me. You don’t have to love or even care about yoga to relate to this post. My guess is, we’ve all experienced the downside of poor goal setting and could use the kind of real talk I experienced over the weekend. Or not. Your call. Either way, here goes!

So I have all these goals for my life, right? And sometimes, ok, most of the time, I get really frustrated with myself and my life and my lack of current progress in said goals. I get down right sour. Why am I not accomplishing these things? I say to myself. Why can’t I move forward in this area? I bemoan. Why do I suuuuuck? I cry and cry and cry.

I am very critical of myself. I get that. But also, I realized over the past weekend that I am a very poor goal setter. I’m unrealistic. I set the bar too high, expecting to jump from point A to Z without B-Y. Then, when I can’t leap the chasm between where I’m at and where I want to be immediately and with very little effort applied, I cry. I get angry. I beat myself up. I assume that I’m the worst ever and get really down in the dumps. And then, for the coup de grâce, I stay down in the dumps because I also happen to have a very strong will. This means that I won’t give up on said impossible goal, I simply run myself repeatedly into the proverbial brick wall and wonder why I’m so pathetic to not be able to tear down the wall. (Never mind you with your, “Haven’t you ever heard the definition of insanity?” Yes. Yes I have. And so have you but I bet there are things that youuu do over and over while expecting a different result each time so just step off, ok? We are in this together.)

Take yoga for example.

I have all these goals. Big goals. Little goals. But mostly just big goals.

This weekend at a yoga workshop, the instructor said something that blew my mind. She was walking around the room as we were working on some basic drills – like super basic – and said the following to everyone in the room:  Continue reading “The Problem With Goals”

Dear Denise: I Miss Our Yoga

For Sara. Thanks for reminding me.

I’ve written this post three times, now. I keep writing, deleting, writing, deleting. It’s fairly symbolic of the larger problem I have with yoga lately.

I’m stuck in this cycle of self criticism, doubt, frustration, and comparison. We all get stuck in these cycles from time to time, mine just currently manifests itself in my yoga practice. Your’s might appear in your outlook on motherhood, a career, or a relationship. We’ve all got our stuff. Continue reading “Dear Denise: I Miss Our Yoga”

Friday Five

1. I love Bleeding Heart flowers. The photo above is from my flower bed. I grew the plant from a starter cutting and, initially, it didn’t fare well. The first year, a weird mold completely took it over. The second year, frost caused all the blooms to fall off and the leaves to wither. I went outside last night and was pleasantly surprised to see this plant, that I love so much but have yet to really enjoy, blooming in all it’s delicious pink and white glory.

2. I was so happy to read this article about what is apparently a controversy in the design world: white walls. I have to admit, I have major design envy when I see all these grammers and bloggers showcasing their minimalistic style against a backdrop of white walls. I love it. Love, love, love it.  Continue reading “Friday Five”

Five Things

1.  If you’ve hung around His Girl Friday for awhile, then you know my family loves to travel with Airbnb. (The photo above is from our last Airbnb adventure in Tybee Island!) Airbnb allows you to stay in unique places that you’d never get to experience if you stayed in hotels. I read recently read: “Starting this June, it’s officially possible to Airbnb the adorable little “vacation” cottage in the French countryside where Julia Child used to cook and entertain with her hubby from 1963 to 1992″ (from Purewow.com).  How cool would that be???

2. Have you seen the Vogue 73 Question interviews? I’m obsessed with them. Until recently, my favorite one was with the ever lovely Blake Lively (Serena van der Woodnsen!). But then, I watched the latest one with Taylor Swift and I have to say. Love. It. I was surprised. I’ve never been the biggest T-Swizzle fan, but I was impressed by what I saw in the short interview.

3. One of my favorite youtube yogis is Yoga by Candace. She creates these fantastic yoga graphics that really break down the basics of a pose, so that you don’t just visually see what goes into a pose, but you can also learn more about the alignment and proper technique.

4. My husband and I love going on simple yet unique dates. We’ve had to be super creative in the past; It’s not easy to go on dates when you get married in college (aka you’re super broke). I saw this list of free date ideas and thought of the good old days where our date nights included a trip to the local library and a midnight stroll around town. I find most date night lists to be either cheesy or unoriginal, but this one had a few cute suggestions. I especially liked the idea to go camping in your backyard. We tried that once. But we didn’t have a tent. We woke up the next morning completely soaked with dew. Ahh. Good memories :-). Continue reading “Five Things”

A Basement Retreat: A Room Tour

My friend Sara is adventurous, athletic, well read, super smart, incredibly kind and generous, and just the right kind of goofy. She processes mortgage loans as a profession, but her life is far from defined by something as simple as a job. She is a momma. She’s done triathlons. She bikes and does yoga. She reads – a lot. She makes her own soap. She finds something that interests her, and pursues it. Incidentally, and not surprisingly, I find her fascinating to talk to. I always have. I have these incredibly vivid memories of the time I spent with Sara when we were younger. Thanks to Sara, the Mazda Miata was, and always will be, the epitome of cool in my mind ;-).

When she told me she asked her husband to build her a room in their basement where she could work (from home), read, and do yoga, I knew I wanted to feature it in my room tour series. Most people (me included) tend to be so pragmatic and unimaginative in how we use our space: this is a kitchen, it is where we make food; this is a bedroom, it is where we sleep, etc, etc. I was intrigued by Sara’s idea to create a space that would suit and support her. A space that – yes, had a pragmatic function – but also, that literally was just – space. Space to breath. Space to practice. Space to be.

Take a look at Sara’s office/yoga room/quiet space. I think you’ll enjoy both the design and the intention behind this special room. Continue reading “A Basement Retreat: A Room Tour”

A Little Bit About Me

I’ve picked up some new followers lately, so I thought I’d take the time today to share a little bit about myself.

-I have three kids. I’ve had a baby every other year for the past five years running. I need to start planning my next project before I get confused and have one more kid.

-I love live for coffee. The darker and stronger the better. I want my coffee to reach up and slap me. Incidentally, I’m not a morning person and would cease to function without said, strong coffee.

-My favorite dark roast at Starbucks is Gold Coast. My least favorite is Komodo Dragon. Let’s be real, Starbucks, and call a spade a spade, and a medium roast a medium roast.

-I don’t really have a favorite color. I’m an equal opportunity color appreciator.  Continue reading “A Little Bit About Me”

Good Moments

Mike is home on spring break this week, so yesterday I took the opportunity to TAKE a yoga class. At 9:00 am, I unrolled my mat in a warm and sunny spot at my favorite yoga studio and stretched myself out, preparing to get my butt kicked.

It’s an exercise in humility and mental toughness to get back into the game postpartum. You remember where you were before baby, but your body feels like it belongs to someone else. And in a way, it kinda did. I had several out of body moments on my mat where I was on an entirely different plane mentally than I was physically. I had to quickly snap back to attention and get my wobbly body under control.

Not there yet. Continue reading “Good Moments”

Thursday Things I Love: New Projects, Dates, and Spring

I read this quote recently and loved it:

Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.

-Ann Lamott

My friend Whitney recently posted about a date night at Chick Fil A where customers were encouraged to turn off their phones and put them in a box on the table for their Family Challenge. I really like that idea. As a blogger, it can be difficult to turn off your phone. What about taking pics to use in posts next week? What about updating social media to keep people engaged? Blah blah blah. I love my phone and I think people take their phone/social media bashing a bit far. I mean, you can ALWAYS find something to be distracted by; if it wasn’t our phones it would inevitably be something else. But, with that being said, I love this idea of “unplugging” from the world for a bit and recharging the proverbial batteries. This is so powerful to do as a family. Go for a walk. Read a book. Just be together, without the noise of the outside world clamoring for your attention. If I’m brave enough, I might even choose one day a week to “unplug.” I’ll keep you update. Er, or not? Lol, see the conundrum I have here? Continue reading “Thursday Things I Love: New Projects, Dates, and Spring”